As is a usual occurrence for me I have been recently observing particular human behavior. Specifically the use of blame, not taking responsibility, and the act of lying to everyone including themselves regarding particular situations. I must admit that a lack of insight may cause this as well although I strongly believe that since the subconscious is likely aware of your inaction that lying to oneself or not thinking about certain areas of yourself are reasonably responsible for this lack of discipline.
Not thinking about particular areas of your brain are probably the leading cause for this concept. I use myself here as an example not to boast or demonstrate pride but because I have developed myself in this particular area. I have spent a lot of time analyzing what motivates people. Most people don’t go to school because they want to, they do so because it is what’s expected of them. This is something I have mentioned in previous blog posts but I would like to dive deeper into this particular piece of information. I am going to use a laid out hypothetical example for this and that being young adults going into post-secondary schooling.
College is a privilege for most people and because of this you will feel shame or regret for not taking advantage of such. However, if you don’t know what you want to do with your life or you are being forced into doing so it will completely change the experience. In High School kids aren’t given a whole lot of choices outside of their elective experience. The academics are required although many would argue unnecessary. People shouldn’t always be given a choice, especially not kids as sometimes it takes a little push for someone to actually appreciate something in particular. That being said there are many things in school that are just so stupid it’s hard to believe there hasn’t been a change yet. First of all I was one of those kids that didn’t want to have to do the things I didn’t like so the frustration does contribute to my bias. To show that my bias is not effecting my judgement I’d like to talk about what school is meant to do and the origin of education. Not the history but the origin. Kids go to school and it is accepted because everyone else does. A parent sends their child to school not because they want them to be intelligent, although that certainly is a contributing factor but because it is simply the status quo. You’ve probably never even thought about it, if you raised a child you already know that you are going to send them to school once they are of age. School is not a bad idea, hence why education has been around so long, however it is important to understand why education exists and why it is essentially mandatory for every living citizen. I say essentially because those that try to live without schooling do not often make it far in modern society.
Why do we go to school? What an odd question you might think. Surprising that this hasn’t crossed your mind I bet. We are educated because our government wants us to be productive. We are fulfilling a human need to expand our kind. The more humans learn about different fields the more discoveries are made, the faster our race can produce, the easier we make our own lives. Our reason for going to school is not for ourselves but for a greater cause. There isn’t really any reason for this cause just that it’s all we really know how to do. Make the city bigger, make more advancements, make more people. My question of why is one of the reasons I think I often find myself depressed. It’s not that philosophy is so important to me that it gets me down. I feel it’s more like I need a reason to live and that reason is not being fulfilled. There are many people content with following the status quo without questioning it but I am not one of those people. I don’t want to be another bee contributing to society, I want to be happy. If I can do both then more power to that but as it stands I am unhappy with how things are. I see no reason why people think it is at all necessary for a person to be forced to learn things that are of no actual use to them in their lives. You’re wasting their time and causing them to be unhappy. I believe in options but I don’t believe in bullshit. If I want to learn about the human body I will gladly take a class and if that were free that would be even better. Put me in a classroom and tell me I don’t have a choice, that I have to learn about plants and animals and I won’t learn a god damn thing. Punish me because I’m not succeeding or paying attention, you’re just making me even more likely not to succeed now. It’s not about stubbornness it’s about human nature. If I am not interested I will not learn, if I am interested I will learn fast. Most people learn these things out of necessity not by choice. Most people go to College not because they want to, but because they feel they have no other choice. That bit about happiness being important… I don’t think people are happy when they feel they don’t have a choice. The point I make here isn’t that happiness should be prioritized over productivity, it’s that people will ultimately be more productive if they are happy. Any great business owner will tell you this as being a fundamental rule.
I do want to learn about some things, I’d rather do so at my own pace but because schools are businesses there isn’t really a lot of encouragement for teachers to spend more time with their students. It’s all about rushing people through a learning process so that you can make more money, another problem with schools. I have the drive to want to learn now, something I didn’t have even remotely before. Not because I’m scared of being poor or of not being accepted by my friends or family but because I want to learn and use that knowledge to do something phenomenal. The key thing here is that I actually want to learn. I know that when I go to school and I study certain things it will be easy simply because I really care. A student that doesn’t really want to be there in the first place is never going to have that, it will be hard. They probably won’t put that information to anything they really care about. Why go to school unless you want to? I’m not recommending everyone learn the hard way but I am saying it’s better to let someone choose to learn than to force them to do so.
I got extremely off-topic of what I initially wanted to talk about but the way that this is related to responsibility and blame is this. People that are driven to do something will find a way. That class you wanted to get into is filled up? You’re going to try your hardest to find a way in. If you aren’t really sure if you want to or not but if it was open you probably would do it, there is simply no way you are going to bother. The people that are motivated by a goal find their way. I just haven’t quite figured mine out yet.